Inner child
There is a child in each of us - hence the saying: let the child in me enjoy!
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At the root of all conflict, micro or macro, is a wounded, unseen, misunderstood and unloved inner child.
This part of us, often unconscious and unseen, stores all the important memories that happened up until about the age of 7. During this time 0-7 years, the "core programs" are created and installed that fundamentally influence how we react to life's experiences.
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When we were little, each of us had our needs and we expected that our parents or those who took care of us (grandparents, brothers, sisters, family who spent a lot of time with us, educators, nannies, etc.) to fulfill them, to offer us emotional, physical, energetic support when we needed it.
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As a child, the moment one of our needs for affection, belonging, physical or emotional safety, attention, was not met, a wound, a trauma was created. These wounds, traumas are formed because children do not have the ability to regulate their emotions, to rationalize that the "adults" who take care of him/her can make mistakes or acts wrong.
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Due to these traumas/programs, we, as adults, have different behaviors that are not beneficial to us (hence the well-known expression: behaving like a child). When someone says or does something that upsets us on a deep level, it causes us to react uncontrollably - upset, frustration, anger, anxiety, crying, freezing (emotionally, mentally or physically), screaming, yelling, emotions we can't control, the child in us surfaces and reacts because one (or more) of its wounds are activated. A "button" was activated, pressed, and he, the inner child, refuses to relive that trauma without reacting - like a child with the energy and strength of an adult.
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Our duty as adults is to bring our attention to our inner child, acknowledge its existence and become our own parent, give all the love, affection, attention, presence and whatever else our inner child needs to heal those wounds and to become fully functioning and whole adults.
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In other words, it is our duty to uninstall the programs from childhood that are not beneficial to us and install the programs that are best for us. It is our duty to take responsibility for everything that happens to us and to take our destiny into our own hands in a conscious and responsible way.
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We must understand that we have the power to change our own lives and stop having the unrealistic expectation that those around us will change, that the partner will change their attitude towards us, that the family will behave differently, without us evolving , to heal ourselves.
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Working with the inner child, and healing the inner wounds and traumas, we gradually let go of questions like: why does X,Y,Z behave like this with me, why does no one understand me, why THEY don't change, why do I this is happening to me… and more.
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When we start working with the child in us, our life starts to gain more peace, peace. The relationships with those around us resettle in a different context, we increase our own tolerance towards those around us, we regain our self-confidence, courage, our joy of life, creativity, energy level, vitality, playfulness increases and we begin to we look at life with different eyes, with joy and wonder "like a child".
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The inner child is one of the most important psychological, emotional and energetic aspects that require our attention.